Agreeing to accommodate someone for weeks or months is as simple as saying "Yes, of course!" The heat can quickly subside as the reality of long-term hosting sets in. Here's how to prepare for a pleasant visit.
Once a bad visit is made, navigation is difficult. You may not feel so inclined to host anyone who messes at full volume late at night or watches Netflix. But since you have already agreed to be host, there may not seem to be any recourse.
The best answer, as in most situations of life, is to prepare in advance. If your guest is already at home, it is difficult to talk to him. However, if you start before your arrival, you can both benefit.
Whether it's your cousin who needs a place to live until he finds a new job, or an exchange student who spends a few months in a new country. These proven methods help you prepare for a long-term hosting situation.
Host Expectations: Help them find their way.
Let's first set expectations for you, the host. What is to be expected for a guest? Here are some areas you can focus on to get the visit off to a smooth start.
Treat her like a short-term guest (initially).
As a long-term host, you will not feed your guest or buy toiletries all the time. It is best to prepare by buying enough staple foods (groceries and toiletries) to cover them for a few days, while settling down and learning where shops and restaurants are located nearby. You should also provide things that you should not pack, such as sheets, pillows and towels.
Make sure you also have important household items such as toilet paper and detergent at hand. Throughout your guest's stay, you can ask him to be committed to these needs (more on how to do this soon).
Give him as much privacy as possible
In addition to the basics (at least temporarily) B. If you accommodate a short-term guest for a few days, it's best if possible to accommodate your guest in a room at home, which offers maximum privacy and a separate room.
Not everyone has a guest room and guest bathroom, but a significant source of friction when you pick someone up for a longer visit is the extent to which you feel like you're constantly facing each other. If your guest has room, he can move back to where there is no obligation to chat or join the household (and no obligation on your part to feel super hosted), then it is all the easier to be merciful and Relaxed when you spend time together.
Guest Expectations: Communication is the Key
Before your guest arrives, you should set expectations for cleaning and more. You do not have to be strict or strict, but you need to be clear about what you expect from your guest. It is so much easier to put the ground rules at a distance than to lay the ground rules after they have already been broken (and if you have not made them clear in the first place).
If you can, send the most important things by e-mail or text. It can be helpful to record things in writing when it comes to a conflict later. In these conversations, you should consider the following points in particular:
Setting the Purpose of the Visit
Before agreeing with the host, find out why your guest wants to stay with you. Are you on a longer work trip? Looking for a new job? Just go on vacation?
This helps you to understand what your schedule might be like and how your emotional state might be. Someone who bumps into you for divorcing can cry until late at night or bring tired days to your home. You should know what you are getting into before signing up.
This conversation will also help you to explain other expectations appropriately. For example, if your guest works 1
Discuss the end of the visit.
Even if your guest is not initially sure how long he wants to stay, you should set this an endpoint for the visit before they arrive. Ask them how long they are expected to be at your home. If it takes you too long, be sure to let them know when to leave. (This is a good thing you must submit in writing.)
If you are not sure how long your stay will last, indicate how long you are willing to host. Say something solid, like, "I'm glad to host you for three weeks, but after that I need my guest room again." You do not have to give a reason or an excuse for your timeframe – it's your home after all.
Cleaning : Who cleans what and when?
If you remember that the company comes by, tidying up may be the first thing that comes to your minds.Most of us like the idea of having guests sit on a sink full of dishes or However, if your guest lingers for a while, cleaning becomes a bit more complicated.
You are not a hotel, and you are not expected to be there during the entire time you are in Instead, you should strive to keep your home as clean as you would always do, and most importantly, keep your guest in the clean room involve work.
You want to determine how clean the public areas should be and what your guest is responsible for. If you use a household task table, enter its name (start a few days after you arrive so you have time to settle in).
The more accurate your expectations, the better. For example, you might have the rule that dishes must be ready within 24 hours of use. You can even write down a gentle reminder of the rules and place them in the logical places (for example, next to the sink).
A guest who does not pay for his stay, should like to help as a thank you in the house-you. If you indicate that you are not interested in being an active part of the household, you should say no.
Help your guest to synchronize with the household.
Every household is different and you can help a long-term guest fit into your household by letting him know what to expect.
For example, if you have children, your house may need to be quiet after going to bed. If you regularly organize dinner parties once a month, your guest should know when to expect a home full of strangers. If you have pets, your guest needs to know how to deal with them appropriately. And if there are strict rules in your house, make sure your guest knows what it is.
Synchronizing with your household of course depends on what makes your household unique. But every house has its own needs and quirks. So do your best to let your guest know what your house is like (and how you can not disturb the river).
Talk about your guest's guests
During a longer stay Maybe your guest wants people to be over. But since it's your home, you need to discuss when and if it's appropriate. For example, you can inform them that they like having friends during the day, but no overnight guests. Or you can tell your guest that he should ask you before he brings the people to you, so that you can decide whether it is ok depending on the situation.
Financial expectations break
Your guest does not pay you for her stay, but she & # 39; I still have to pay for some needs while they are there. For example, they may be responsible for their own food or are expected to sign up for a weekly grocery shopping meal. Maybe they need a laundry room in the apartment, or maybe they can use it for free if they buy their own laundry detergent.
However you break it, make sure your guest knows what he's going to pay for. and what they are not. You should not spend extra money on your guest, but it's up to you to decide how to pay for the regular household expenses.
Allow your guest to be independent
The more independent your guest can be, the happier the stay is for you both.
Guests are annoying when you have to hold your hand on every little task. First, be patient with them and take the time to explain where things are in your home. Show them where to cook, how the washing machine works and how to get the hot water running in the shower.
You may have some questions in the first few days, but with your guide you should learn what you need quickly. Let them know how they can help. Maybe you can walk the dog while you work, or mow the lawn for you.
You should also show them how you can enjoy your home. Share your Wi-Fi password with others, show them how to use the TV, and suggest some places of interest that you can visit. You should not expect entertainment, but you can help your guests entertain themselves.
Remember that they are more or less social than you. If they are more social, they may go out more often to see friends. If you're less social, you should not expect them to meet with the monthly book club group you host. It's important that your guests have the space and privacy they need (and it's also important that they do not make you socialize if you do not want to).
Above all, try to be flexible and stay in the flow: there is no way for a guest to change the dynamics of your household a bit. But with strong communication and reasonable expectations on both sides, it can be worthwhile to accommodate a long-time guest, even if it's fun. Next, read our guide to preparing your home for parties!